Ever since Isabel goes to P1, she has no problem coping with homework, unlike Ian. She finishes her works, usually in an hour or so, whilst Ian takes 3-4 hours (from the day he started primary schooling).
But it has been boring for Isabel, coz after she completes her homework, she has nothing to do. I have tried to allow her to go out to play, but I am a lazy person, I don’t like to sweat and I don’t like to go out, so I rarely play with her. So for safety reasons, she is not allowed to go out alone.
Lately, since we started taking skating lessons, I thought maybe today we will go practice skating at the park. This also helps to encourage Ian to do his homework faster. But… The sky didn’t allow us. At 4 something in the afternoon, it started raining. Ian continue to drag on his homework, and we knew our plan is ruined (you can’t skate on wet surface).
At 5:20pm, rain stopped. Seeing the road is still wet, Isabel suggested that we go run at the park. For the first time, I agreed to it. And it is the greatest thing I’ve done for her! She was so excited, and through out the whole session, she kept smiling and laughing. Ian refused to follow despite finishing his homework already and I couldn’t persuade him.
We did all sort of crazy thing, just Isabel and I. Just soon after we arrived at the park, she wanted to pee! I gently told her that we could use the toilet the, and I was a little heartache when she kept apologizing for not using the toilet earlier (I have been strict and upset about that in the past!). We ran and laughed all the way to the toilet, chit chatted and holding hands occasionally.
When we were out, we changed our course, going a different direction. We pretended that we were skating, we did striding, ready roll, braking, etc. I pretended that I lost balance and she came to my rescue… She ran and she panted, and she laughed, and she complaint of pain at her stomach, and we walked and chit chatted, talked all sort of silly things.
Through out, she kept looking at me, and kept saying’I love you, mama!’ to me. Every time she says that, I can’t help but to think she is really grateful for the time we spend together.
When we decided to stop, she asked if she could play at the playground, though she also concerned that it might be still wet. I let her do that, telling him that we are going to wash her clothes already anyway, so go get wet, it is alright! She played and played and not forgetting to keep telling me that she loves me very much!
When we reached home finally, I offered to shower for her. As I was washing her hair, she said it again that she loves me very much. My heart melted and ached at the same time. I should have done this more often with her.
This, is the true Special Moments that I should be giving to the kids, and not the eating or dessert trip. In those trips, they usually occupied with the food, don’t even bothered to talk or to look at me. Maybe once a while is okay, but I truly benefited more from this.
I’m glad that Ian didn’t join us this time. Now I know, my best Special Moment with Isabel is this. It was soooooo sweet. My best time spent with her in recent months.
Oh ya, she is a little more outdoorsy than Ian by nature. I did not expect to be this, given her weaker legs and like-to-sleep nature. But lately she has been begging to go out, running, cycling, playing, etc, whilst Ian begged to stay at home instead.
I will still need to find out what’s the best time spent with Ian, I believe what works for Isabel might not work for him.
Ah… I love today very much. It was so lovely…..