May 24 2006
Confinement Ahead (part 2)
Thanks for leaving your comments on part 1. I’ve decided to reply in a post, since it is going to be long. 
Well, thanks to your courages, I’ve spoken to MIL again. Actually she didn’t know that my mom doesn’t allow me to sleep with Ian at night. She is probably right that it is hard to handle bathing and feeding for Ian.
Feeding is always a challenging task. It always drive me nuts when I have to feed him, as he literally spit out every mouthful of food, on the floor, in his shirt, etc. Not vomit, but spit out everything. My mom definitely can’t handle him, and I for sure won’t want to scold or beat him for doing so when the newborn is around — not to make him think that I have a mei-mei and treat him badly.
Bathing wise, due to confinement rules, I can’t bath him myself, and we never + would not let the maid handle him. My mom and MIL always have problems dealing with this. I guess only I can bath him without much hassles. With the confinement rules, I can’t help.
Therefore, MIL suggested that DH sends Ian to me in the evening after dinner. We then play for a while and sleep together. Next day morning, ask my mom to send him to MIL’s house when she is free, probably around 10′ish.
I think that is a good idea, but I have to really make my mom agrees. Been talking to her about this much earlier but have been rejected. She wants me to have enough rest at night and want to sleep with me instead. She is more concerned about my fitness – being my own mother mah! 
Anyway, I will try again.
good luck! hopefully your “negotiations” with your mum goes smoothly
Very happy to hear that there is some leeway to your situation..
take some good rest after having #2.. and cheer up.. everything would work out well.. 
aiyo…i already wish you ‘happy sang chai’ for so long oledi…
you still here…hahahaha
anyway…good luck in your ‘nego’ and ‘happy sang chai’ again !
Your MIL is very good to come out with the idea yah? Hopefully your mum agrees to it. Manja manja a bit maybe she agree. Hehe. Afterall she is your mum mah like you said.
yeap..it quite a good idea too..hope ur mom will agree lor..
Did Ian sleep thru the night now? if yes, then tell ur mother lor..no need to take care Ian when he sleep mah..u still have time to rest lor…
Good luck… erm, maybe can bargain like tell her you’re willing to be confined for 40 days instead of 1 month in exchange for Ian sleeping with you? LOL
Seems like the cloudy going to clear soon, wish you good luck!
But, your mother is right too as your own fitness is important.
Actually, it’s better for Ian to stay with you if possible. Since you’ll be spending night time together, that should be good enough. I think part of the reason why Justin’s not jealous is I’m still spending time with him, except bathing. Feeding is still challenging, so I let him eat by himself when I eat and clean up the mess later. He’s taking less, so I let him snack whenever he’s hungry.
It’s really tiring taking care of 2 kids this confinement, but with the help of your mum and maid, things will be fine.
So glad to hear that… I’m sure “when ship reaches the bridge, it’ll get straight eventually”