Mar 06 2006
Happy Baby
No doubt, Ian is a happy boy. Even though he sometimes whines, it only means he doesn’t know/want to express himself with words. He is still a happy boy – from the way he laughs, giggles, sings, plays, etc.
When I was conceiving him, I was a happy mom-to-be too. It was my 1st pregnancy, I was full of expectation. Every new or little things can make me excited and happy. That pregnancy was very easy too, without much nausea and no other discomfort. I was also treated like a queen – by my mom, DH, and MIL. Got all the attention, ate good food, etc.
Many people told me that I should keep a good and happy mood, so when the child is born, he will be a happy one, something like 胎教 effect.
I don’t know whether it was true, or just coincidence, Ian born to be a happy boy. It is an enjoyable thing to see his happy face, giggling and laughing…
As for this 2nd pregnancy, I have a completely different experience. I think overall 70% unhappiness, and only 30% (or less) of happiness.
As I have a #1 to take care, my body not getting enough rest. A lot of discomfort. Now even have strange rashes on my thighs and tummy, which no oilments can ease the itchiness.
This time, I don’t have the time to do any exercise, unlike the last time I swam at least once a week. Due to a different schedule, I am unable to eat at my mom’s place, which also means less ‘jaga’ from my loved mom.
All these, coupled with the other life events – company restructuring, arguments over child care/discipline, job related issues, and other emotional things (like not getting enough attention/care, having to carry heavy goods), etc…
I just hope the 胎教 thingy is not true, otherwise will this #2 be an unhappy baby when born? I tried to cheer myself up, but sometimes really tough.
For example, after parked my car, I went over to the other side to get my stuff (bags, documents, etc). Due to heaviness of my body, I couldn’t speed up. At the same time, DH kept pushing and pushing and pushing, and pushing… I felt so stressed that I cried. I know, is just a small matter, but I just cried – I think I am emotional.
Then, when listening to my favourite song – suddenly felt that the lyrics is so touching, and I cried.
Do I need to consult a phychologist? Hmm… I really hope it won’t affect my baby.
hmmm… sounds like mood swings… hang in there!
This is bad. You really need to lighten up, just 3 more months to go. Perhaps we go eat good food?
Ya, Jason, let’s have some good food – I have a lot of cravings, but all unfulfilled… hmm, must write a list on this. :p
You might able to get a happy baby this round too! Maybe you can try listen to some soft calssical music and watch some comedies to cheer yourself up. And be nice to yourself, give yourself a treat?
My last pregnancy was emotional and I cried easily too but my girl is a cheerful baby, she smiles a lot since 2 months old. When I browsed back her infant photos, most of the photos were her smiling face. But I have to admit that sometimes she is quite difficult to handle.
pregnant tend to get mood swing, easy. if you think seeing a professional will help, go ahead, at least someone is listening.
Hey..Suzette,
I think your DH.. needs to be a little more sensitive.. with your current situation.. and your effort..! it takes two.. to make this work.
You should really surround yourself.. with ppl who are positive. Try and go home.. to your mom’s.. so you can at least get some good food..and a shoulder to cry on.
Take care.. my dear..!
jefferene: will I still be able to ‘safe’ the situation? Only 2+ months left wor… I hope my baby is ok like your girl.
maria: no lah, just joking about seeing prof… I think I just need to talk/blog it out, then I feel better liao!
Mamabok: Sigh! Thanks for the words. I actually told him immediately when reached home, that he needs to be more careful with his words, coz not that I don’t want to speed up, but I am not able to, with the clumsy body. He then acknowledge that, but I don’t know whether he saw me crying or not lah – I cried whilst I was doing the housework and preparing Ian to bed – so, sort of running in and out. (shame, shame… :p)
Hmm… your suggestion to go to my mom’s house… ya, maybe I should do that more often. Thanks!