Oct 04 2005
Going Through Other People’s Stuff
This morning there was a discussion in Light & Easy on this topic. Surprisingly, many callers supported that married couples should be allowed to go through partner’s stuff.
I strongly disagree with that, but couldn’t call in to give my view (I was driving).
Even though you are married, you are still two independent individuals. Not allowing you to go through your partner’s stuff doesn’t mean that he/she has secret or things to hide. It is all about respect and manners.
Even when we were young and stayed with our parents, I’m sure everyone would not like their parents to read their letters, open their emails or check the wallets. If you didn’t like it, what makes you think one should let the partner to go through his/her stuff after married?
Even if you are okay with it and would like to share with your partner, that doesn’t mean your partner must do the same. You are two individuals! Please respect your partner’s privacy.
As for me, I always leave my stuff unprotected, around the open areas. If DH wants to go through, he can. But I believe he never did that. I would not go through his stuff as well, as I trust him. There is nothing to hide. If you want to know, ask and I will tell. Why become suspicious for nothing? Strange people this morning…
Its the curiousity and kpo-ness that makes them agree.
They agree because they are looking at other people’s story only. If it happens to them, you see they want people to go through their stuff or not.
Craps. And I still cant solve the god damn puzzle of Veridian Room. Shit!
I am going KL, Kepong to be exact.
hands up… legs up… showing support!!
some people are just plain paranoid I guess… maybe after reading too many news or magazines on extra-marital affairs
jason: oohhh, I promised to blog about veridian hor? Hehehe! Why Kepong? When?
egghead: actually hor, after the go through their partner’s stuff, I don’t think they can get any clues even if there is affair! That is just not the way lah, hor?
maybe just curious ler…..
err…not that I go through my partner’s stuff …
Err…I don’t like my spouse go through my stuff too, but I like to search his stuff, included pocket of his jeans, and he doesn’t mind too, becasue he can never remember where he place his stuff, so I became the manager of his stuff, included his ex-girlfriend’s photo (may be I burn it he also don’t know
).
iNsunN: uh huh! sure or not you didn’t go through? hahaha! heard of this: curiousity kills? be careful hor… :p
maria: wah! this is the other extreme of husband allowing wife to go through the stuff to that extent! thumbs up to twinsdad!